How to Set Boundaries With Immigrant Parents

Overcoming the guilt, shame, and embarrassment of putting yourself first.

How to Set Boundaries with Immigrant Parents - via Psychology Today

How do you set boundaries in a family that has none?

It seems impossible, I know. But oftentimes, that’s the trauma talking and holding you back. 

Western psychology glorifies the concept of “boundaries,” but what if your family just doesn’t understand this concept?

Children of immigrants are also pioneers, having to navigate this new world on their own. This also means having to navigate the world of mental health and healthy boundaries, too. 

Although it might not look or feel as black & white or clear cut as it does for some of your peers, setting boundaries IS possible and it starts with overcoming the shame of having your own needs. 

Prioritizing your needs ahead of your family’s can feel like betrayal. But in the long run, it prevents you from feeling resentful and angry and lashing out at innocent bystanders. 

Here’s how to set boundaries with your immigrant parents, a new blog post that I just wrote for Psychology Today.

P.S. I recently just launched my official website for my therapy practice, Bodhi Aware Therapy. Expect more updates and resources coming very soon!